ACT LIKE A LADY THINK LIKE A MAN …. or not lol sounds a bit transgender to me

Act like a Lady, Think like a Man: I keep seeing this phrase EVERYWHERE, especially from girls, I discover it’s a book about “What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment” and is a best selling non fiction  book by Steve Harvey released on January 27, 2009. My first thought was why would who has been married THREE times have the audacity to write a book about what “Men” REALLY think about love and relationships, but then I recoiled from my first thoughts on the matter as not to be judgemental and maybe someone who has failed so many times may just be trying to warn others about the mistakes he (him and his past wives) had made, which I suppose is pretty noble and I am a fan of Steve Harvey and I usually have allot of time for what he has to say, but the more I listened to girls talking about this the more I became irritated to the point I thought I would blog my own thoughts.

Disclosure: Firstly I would like to say I haven’t read the book at all so maybe I am way off and I’m only going on what I have heard from people, reviews and such.

Secondly I’m very dyslexic and I really can’t be bothered to get someone to check through my blog atm, so you going to have to read about the poor syntax, grammar and spelling.

With all that said buckle up lets go…

My first thoughts of course were what is it a man thinks like, what does it mean to think like a man?

It is widely assumed men are afraid of commitment, flirtatious, cheats, sexually stimulated, romantically lazy and more (correct me if I’m wrong, I’m just summarising what I read daily on twitter, see on bb status, hear on talk shows and music lyrics), these attributes describe a boy, a man is not defined by age but by maturity and a reaction to responsibility, to assume all guys are like this and see them in a negative light to the point where you have to start thinking differently from you norm immediately puts you on a back step, a relationship should have no self-help book to help you or tell you how to act if you can’t be yourself, then there is a problem.

But let’s for a moment assume we can categorise ALL guys as ONE thing, as if all MEN think ONE way, the main question that comes to my mind is what is wrong with thinking like a women, the phrase implies two things ONE a women must think like a man to get anywhere in life and to get/keep a man. So if everyone’s thinking like a man who is thinking like women? I think this is detrimental and undermines the strength and power of women but I’ll go into this a little later.

What is the difference between men and women anyway, probably should have been the first thing I discussed, I’m going to attempt to break it down to 5 main things, using researching from science and psychologist.

Major differences between men and women

1) Communication skills & body language The communication center inside a woman’s brain is much larger than the communication center inside a man’s brain. Women pay special attention to words, read in between lines and can notice the body language of people along with their facial expressions in a much better way than men. (I BET MOST MEN SKIM READ THIS lol)

2) Sharing vs problem solving: Men in general are more independent than women. They even prefer to solve their problems alone without talking about them. Women on the other hand become distressed if they didn’t share their problems with their friends even if their friends weren’t able to provide solution’s. This is a famous point of conflict where a woman tells her man about a problem with the intention of sharing it with him then becomes surprised by the man’s single line answer (which is intended to provide a solution to the problem). This is also the reason why women go to bathroom in groups, so they can give each other the donwlow on whats going on.

3) Attraction and sex: The Part inside the brain responsible for sexual desire is much bigger inside the man’s brain. Men are allot more visually stimulated then women and draw attraction from what they see and feel, as appose to women who are more likely to draw an attraction from a mental connection, someone that makes them feel wanted.

 

4) Aggression vs diplomacy: Women are biologically wired to avoid conflict unless some other psychological factor comes into play (such as defensive of a child, the mother affect). Men on the other hand are much more aggressive in general A typical woman would try to avoid conflict and maintain peace while a typical man will hardly back off if someone threatened or challenged him. It’s likely a man will be seen as female if he does.

5) Logical thinking vs emotional thinking: Men in general can take decisions without being emotionally affected that much while women in general take into consideration other factors that are related to emotions that most men overlook.

Now if I’m right in understanding Steve Harvey, a woman must think more like a man then a woman ( here natural thinking) to keep a solid relationship, so in the situations listed above she should try and get herself into the male psyche and think more like him to achieve in life. For one this is one sided why wouldn’t you also get a man to think like a women, it implies women have to do all the work, which is silly, it also implies that the way the women thinks is wrong and the way the male thinks is superior and a women must give up the way she thinks if she is to get a good man.

For centuries the differences between men and women were socially defined and distorted through the lens of sexism, after a rise of feminism with the famous “bra burners” women sought to be more like men to get rid of the male superiority, there was a rise of lesbianism, women cut their hair off, started dressing like men, cutting of their emotions and becoming business minded.

Men and women are different that much is plain to see just by our sexual anatomy but must women have a total drastic change of mind to achieve or do well in life, or even get a man. As a Christian my belief is a creation of women starting at Eve and it’s a well-known story even among atheist, when God made Eve he said it is not good for man to be alone. Women were made as a comforter of men, as a mother of men and adviser of men (if we are to use the model of Eve). First looking at the comforter roll, even when a guy has his “boys” there will be times when he will go to his wife, his mum, his sister for help of advice she brings a different perspective, she usually more emotionally attached then his boys better at reading between the lines and this makes women invaluable as the comforter, men don’t want to be with their boy, they want to be with their WOMEN and whilst there will be clashes as men and women are different they want to come home to their WOMEN, not to one of their homies or boys.

Women still using the model of Eve, are the mothers, naturally women are allot more caring then men, some even say they have that natural mother tendency that takes over and it can even be seen in nature with animals, the female naturally seems to have that “mothers touch”, this again makes females invaluable as caretakers, not just of children but of friendship groups, the work place, church, university, school usually a woman will fall into that role of Mother, the careers and not just domestically with food and washing up, they are great listeners, they are more peaceful and often better at calming down a situation.

Lastly Eve was created as Adam co-d, chief advisor, men need women to be DIFFERENT, in fact the WORLD NEEDS women to be different, to see outside the logical box men are in they need women to give opinions and see things in a way they can’t, whilst I think men make better leaders (naturally) allot of men are poor managers and its takes a leader and a manager to be in charge, women are naturally better organisers and its these unique qualities that attract men to women.

I think it’s quite detrimental in society where the lines are blurred and men become more like women and women become more like men, (JUST LOOK AT LIL WAYNE AND HIS DRESS SENSE) allot of MEN are not the MAN anymore and they don’t have that leadership, that a strength that protective quality needed, allot of men are too scared to be fathers leaving women as single parents this and more LEADS women to have to take a more man role in life, and

Where the men are not men women will HAVE to rise up.

My concluding thoughts as I have rambled on is WOMEN BE WOMEN, be proud of WHO YOU ARE, you don’t need to be MEN, when you forget the power and strength of what it means to be a WOMEN you forget Gods plan for us, a marriage where two people think the same is never going to be that fulfilling, women were made to be the missing part that men are not, you were made UNQIUE women, taken from the rib, not the head that you will be above the man OR the foot that you should be below him, but the RIB that you shall be equal to him, and together men and women power is unimaginable.

Girls think like a WOMAN and ACT LIKE A WOMAN boys think like a MAN AND ACT LIKE A MAN

P.S for relationship advice holla i have done a blog on how to MAKE IT WORK, and proof is in the pudding my parents together for 25 years happily married.

 

“The modern Bar: diverse and open to all. Discuss.”

Modern, Diverse and Open, are these three words we would use to describe the current Bar? When I was first presented with the topic “The modern Bar: diverse and open to all. Discuss.” Those three words stood out to me. The word modern comes from the Latin modemus and it means to pertain to the present and recent time; not ancient or remote and I thought it apropos in assessing the extent of truth behind the phrase “Modern Bar”. The UK legal system is viewed as old fashioned legal systems with historical permutations dating back to Abrahamic law with laws and traditions dating back to before medieval time still in place. Judges and lawyers still wear powdered wigs during judicial proceeding and gowns, as in in many top professions access is through exams and interviews, but  the bar brings with it a dozen formal dinners a ritual that has medieval roots where “Sons of country gentlemen” from across the country would come to lodge attend lectures, have moots and dine together. Today the dinners still live on as well as the high number of Oxbridge students (82% making just over two thirds in 2011).

The UK legal system has the appearance of elitism in stark contrast to the US where a clear distinction is made between the roles of solicitors and barristers. The evidence seems to suggest this is not the most modern institution however one must not perceive this in full negativity part of the nature of the profession is that it is an old fashioned institution in as much mirroring the proud historical culture of Royal Britannia.

Over the last decade Britain has enhanced its reputation as a multicultural metropolis, the replication of has not followed suit amongst the professions. Diversus the Latin root word that diverse came from meaning various kinds or forms; multiform. In 2011 the Government released a report entitled “Increasing Diversity in the Legal Profession:” It highlighted 89.8% of those at the bar as white, 71% of them male, 10.2% BME (black minority ethnic) and 29% women and at the upper echelons of QC 92% male and 8% females and even smaller 3% of BME’s. Steps taken to arrive at a more representative Bar included the Government enlisting the Legal services board for consultation on how to increase diversity and social 

mobility in the legal workforce this highlighted the Bars shortcomings. Strides have however been made with people like Baroness Scotland QC and Daniel Alexander QC both BME’s trail blazing the way forward, including my personal inspiration Courtenay Griffiths QC also a BME one of Britain’s most senior and respected lawyers. However can diversity be found in mirroring the public demographic? Should this be defined by race, gender, disability or religion? The reality of the small number of BME’s or the disproportionate number of female members does not change the fact that over 82% of members come from less than 10% of the population with the majority being affluent white, middle class males from Oxbridge. The Bar does not yet mirror the diversity of the country it represents when looking across board at the rising BME’s, Woman and Disabled people in other top professions.

The next word that I highlighted was ‘open’, which out of the three is the only old English word diverged from the old Norse opinn meaning not closed or barred at the time. Is it therefore fair to conclude that the Bar is “opinn” to all never closed never bared at any time? In attempting to answer the question is the bar open to all does not appear to delve at the route in answering the question whether the bar is open. Anyone with magna cum laude (with great honour or academic distinction) has the opportunity to join the bar, however the current route to the bar it’s interesting to ask cui bono? (Who benefits?). From the college of law website I looked up skills Barristers will need to possess and the following was given.

• Good communication and interpersonal skills
• Confidence
• Tact
• Excellent literacy skills
• The ability to describe complex matters of law in a simple manner
• Good research skills
• Excellent advocacy skills
• The ability to keep information confidential
• The ability to distance oneself emotionally from cases
• A logical mind
• Problem-solving skills
• Attention to detail
• The ability to remain calm whilst under pressure

After looking at this I then looked at the route one takes to becoming a barrister, a strong academic background is needed from GCSE, to University, even though those with a 2:1 should not be surprised if they are turned away at the pupillage stage, then further exams are taken although it is mixed with vocational skills and the new aptitude test coming this autumn. In a profession where the skills needed to survive and excel are weighted towards an academic achiever, this puts non private school students at a disadvantage and favours the Oxbridge students, and deters many students with a natural aptitude for the Job and the skills needed to get a look in. I find it hard to find a correlation between the high academic ability test route and the actual skills requirements..

 

Furthermore as the education becomes more expensive from private secondary schools all the way up to university undergraduate level which many say is set to soar this year a further barrier is presented for students who wish to attain the academic results needed to be given the chance to proceed, while little changes for the affluent students who can afford it.

The Bar has made great strides in becoming more diverse and open, but the reality has shown how difficult this is, the bar is modernising but how much of this is a change which will lead to diversity and openness is to be seen. I myself am a BME and Dyslexic and many people ask me “why do I want to be a lawyer” I respond to this genuinely surprised with a quote I am reminded of from the Heroine Harriett Tubman “I saved thousands of slaves and I could of saved more if they only knew they were slaves.” I don’t want to be a lawyer because of title, position or money I want to be a trail blazer an inspiration yes the bar is open to all but not many people especially amongst disabled, BME’s, women and people from non-Oxbridge or top universities know this, the myth that getting a pupillage at the bar is only possible if you are white, male, middle class and went to public school, Oxford or Cambridge is best dispelled by action. I don’t want to be a lawyer I have to be a lawyer, until the minds of people change there will never be full diversity and bar will not be open to all, I hope by my actions will inspired others to question norms, so that the question  why do I want to be a lawyer? Will not continue to be asked in astonishment to anyone who doesn’t fit the stereotypical view of what one would see as a Barrister.

An open door is useless if it cannot be found….

 With inspiration from Naomi Kellman - http://careers.guardian.co.uk/careers-blog/graduate-recruitment-class-race-bias

Written by Micah Nathanael Adams 

 

IN THE INFERNO WITH THE FORTH MAN

Im part of a youth ministry team called J19 after Joshua 1 verse 9 we recently did a event called the 4th man in the fire and it has been recorded for all to listen to, it quite long so i would advise listening in to parts but please enjoy and gimme feed back ….

http://www.woodsidegreencc.org.uk/index.php?option=com_preachit&id=74:the-king-a-the-fiery-furnace&view=audio&Itemid=71

 

 

Men Seeking Women… Women Seeking Men…..PERCEPTION

WHAT ARE YOU WORTH? 

I haven’t blogged for a while, so forgive me and this is my first of 2012 so let me say welcome and hope your year so far has been a blessed one.

First allow me to tell you a story…

A classical violinist Joshua Bell donned clothes befitting of a vagrant (a homeless man) and went busking in the streets of Washington DC in 2007, in his hand he held a Stradivarius violin worth around £1, 800, 000 and was booked to play that night in a theatre for almost double that amount.

He stood inside the station with his violin case open to receive money from any passers-by as buskers do and begun to play. Closing his eyes he got lost in the music, many people walking by said it was one of the most beautiful things they had ever heard, but most walked past as if he didn’t exist, some even looked with distain at this poor looking tramp begging for money.

Bell managed to collect $32.17 not including $20 from a passer-by who recognized him.

What is the point of my story or?

Perception:

“Where have all the good guys gone?”

“I don’t trust girls anymore, good girls are a myth?”

Two phrases I hear almost every day or every hour if I include tweets.

How you present yourself says a lot about your worth, using my example of the violinist in a station; he was worth no more than 32 dollars however on a stage for an hours play he brought home thousands of pounds. The first question anyone should ask when considering where the “good” girls or “good” guys are is if the good people would want you.

So many times I have seen girls going mad in raves, putting up pictures of them not wearing very much, having the most crude jokes on twitter and Facebook, the most amount of sex display pictures on BBM and more and then expect to get taken seriously.

You cannot say all guys want is sex if that seems to be all you are offering. You cannot expect to get serious talk marriage, God and love when your display picture is a picture of a precariously balanced couple doing oral, you become the man in the station.

Many people have the perception that IN THE FUTURE I WILL CHANGE, or when I AM IN A REALTIONSHIP TRUST ME I AM DIFFERENT.

People cannot judge you on the future and can only hear promises in your present the only thing they have to judge is your past, so if you’re going in a certain way why expect guys to ASSUME when you’re in a relationship you’re going to be different. Same with guys presenting yourself a player who’s willing to settle down is silly and sometimes I blame the girl for having such low standards but if you want to be with the “one” you should be acting like someone worthy of finding them before you actually do.

In closing because I don’t want to go on I believe everything has moved backwards. Marriage has become the same level as dating, and now dating is like linking and linking is just the norm. We have lost the sanctity of marriage what’s the point of getting married if you’ve already done everything previously. In later generation people we’re nervous to get married but now people are nervous to even just date and would prefer to just link, if you accept yourself as a LINK I don’t know why you would expect someone to allow yourself to be seen as more, you have accepted your role.

I just think we need to move slower, instead of moving at blistering speeds and running out of energy.  But this was meant to be a short blog and this is almost leading to another topic, so we will review this at a later date.

Anyways just some thoughts, Lord of the Leng BLOG IS BACK IN BUSINESS.

 

NBA ROUND UP OF THE WEEK (16/01-22/01/2012)

NBA weekly Roundup (16/01-22/01/2012)

What a week. Improving offensive sets, some lockdown defense and injuries. Yup more injuries. I have the feeling, more so than ever, that this season will be decided by who can stay healthy longest. Case in point Chicago last night fielded a team without Rose, Gibson, Noah, and Lucas; meaning they started with CJ Watson while picking up Mike James (he is still alive?) as backup. Of course the Bulls beat the Bobcats, although Deng also picked up a knock in game and is listed as day-to-day. Now not every team has Thibbs at the coaching spot or is such a well oiled machine as the Bulls. Come playoff time and the weeks leading up to it, whoever can maintain as healthy squad as possible has to be in contention for conference finals.

Teams that impressed; Memphis (4-0) - Conley, Gasol and Gay are shooting a combined 60% from the field in the past week, shouldering the load while Randolph recovers. With the addition of Speights they will again have a healthy frontcourt rotation come playoff time. Gasol has been an absolute animal downlow, while recently also showing an ability to pass the ball not to dissimilar from his brother in LA, flirting with a triple double on numerous occasions already this season. To illustrate this point, he went a +102 in the 4 combined games Memphis played this week. Impressive.

Nuggets (4-1) - Took down Bucks, 76ers, Knicks, Wizards on a 4 game trip out East despite starting the week with a loss to the Jazz. The biggest win was going into Madison Square Garden and beating the Knicks in overtime despite Melo and Co’s best efforts, with Gallinari going for 37/11. With each passing day this trade seems more lopsided as the Nuggets have gone 31-16 while going to the playoffs and the Knicks are 20-28.


Miami (3-1) - After a huge comeback win over the Spurs, aswell as big wins over the 76ers and Lakers, people were starting to question if this squad was more balanced with just the one alpha male in Lebron as Wade watches from the sidelines. Then the Bucks came to Florida and pummelled the Heat at their own suffocating defensive schemes, and alas normality has returned as people call for Wade to come off the injury list. Never fear however, as Eddy Curry is here! No but seriously how is this guy still on an NBA roster.

Teams that faltered;


Bobcats (0-3) - Continued rotation issues with Bismack Biyombo now the backup centre to Mullens, what an odd pairing, with Diaw being relegated to scrub minutes for the most part. Expect a trade here soon. And any squad that managed to make the playoffs last year but loses to a depleted Bulls this year does nothing but lose credit this week. Oh and they lost to the Nets and Cavs. Yes thats right, the Nets are actually winning now.

 

Knicks (0-3) - Losses to Orlando, Phoenix and Denver compounded a miserable week for D’Antoni’s squad. Amare cant seem to get his head together and Melo is already questioning himself. New York seem to hope on a banged up Baron Davis to save this situation but with pieces that don’t fit and only one real strength but plenty of weakness’es this squad is going nowere fast. Tyson Chandler was meant to bring intesity to the defensive end but as I have previously discussed he was expected to do to much and got almost to much credit for what happened in Dallas last year. And any one that has followed Amare’s career knows that he plays better as a stretch 5 or with a stretch 5 next to him. Another big body, ala Shaq, clogs the lane and Amare suffers.

Top 5 Rankings (In order);

Chicago 15-3 - With the best record in the league and winning despite a rash of injuries, this team looks like they will again go deep in the playoffs. However will they be able to go one step further this time? With Derrick Rose at the helm, it would be foolish to bet against them

Thunder 13-3 - Despite a shocking loss to the Wizards, they with the Bulls have so far set the pace in their respective conferences and league wide. With Westbrook tied down for the next 5 years, the sky is the limit for this team.

Orlando 11-4 - I had trouble ranking them above the Heat because their squad is still thin but with Howard averaging close to 20/20/3 on the year and Ryan Anderson playing some of the best stretch 4 offense in the league this team is dangerous. If Nelson and JRich can start to bring their A-Game its not too farfetched to see at least a conference final appearance. Howard has been that good.

Miami 11-5 - The Big 3 have been cut to the Big 2 temporarily but still find ways to win. Mike Miller will help if healthy and Norris Cole/Chalmers continue to put in a solid rotation at PG. Now if only they could get anything besides fouls out of Eddy Curry they would have a deep bench too.

Denver 12-5 - A week of impressive wins and devoted team play (take note Wizards/Kings) has this star-less Nuggets team looking as dangerous as ever. With the possible addition of any of the free agents they have out in China returning in the coming months, could they be this years 04/05 Pistons? I doubt it but they will be fun to watch.

Stat Line(s) of the week;

John Wall v Houston - (38/6/8/4) this seems to be the turning point of his season so far.
Howard v Lakers - (21/23) while limiting Bynum to 10/12. Trade you say? what trade?
James v Lakers - (31/8/8/4/3) a line it seems we have become accustomed too. No wade, no problem as Lebron simply took over.
Aldridge v Toronto - (33/23/5) I do realise this is against the Raptors, but still!
Gallinari v Knicks - (37/11) in MSG, against Melo. Sweet revenge for the sharshooting Italian.

Wizards 

State of Affairs

 

I have had a debates recently with fellow basketball fans about the state of America’s capital representatives, the Washington Wizards. As I am sure you are all aware recently they deemed Flip Saunders surplus to requirements. I found this suprising, although not considering their record of 2-15, but I think this is a problem rooted in player mentality as well as GM movements in past years.First of this is the 4th coach to have walked through these doors in 4 years. Players will now understand that most coaches are not here to stay, even Eddie Jordan, a former Coach of the Year was let go. Thus they can tune out coaches per disagreements or through bad patches knowing they are the first to go. This has a serious effect on team morale.
They have drafted reasonably well in picking up Mcgee, Wall, Singleton and Young in recent years. However they have also drafted Dominic Mcguire, Peter Ramos (Who?), Vladimir Veremeenko (again who?) and Oleksiy Pecherov. The last pick was before the likes of Rajon Rondo and Kyle Lowry got picked in the 2006 draft. So in the last 5 years they have wasted reasonable draft positions on players no longer in the league. Not just busts. They dont even play anymore.The players however must be held accountable. I am one that does not confuse athleticism and raw “talent” with potential and ability to win games. The Wizards frontcourt could potentially be one of the most dominating in the league, with McGee and Blatche bringing genuine size and presence in a league lacking big men. However neither could catch the cold during a winter in Scotland (poor hands) and would fail in a maths class with tutor lessons from Einstein (low B’Ball IQ). Wall has shown serious game in his time in the league and at college level but being surronded by such fragile personailites and consistant losing will not do him any good.
I personally like Nick Youngs game, he can score in bunches, efficiently, very quickly. As Oklohoma City found out recently.

So with a core of Mcgee (23) Young (26) Wall (21) they have pieces to start with. They are not good enough to build round and I would say only Wall is off the trading block (unless someone offers something silly). But to blame to coach for this teams failures is a cop out. The palyers were poor and gave up, while the GM offered no support. I would like to see this team succed and become the new Thunder or T’Wolves which builds young and improves year on year. So far no signs of this happening but hopefully we shall start to see something good rumbling in the capital, that isnt Obama singing Al Green like it wasn’t a second profession.

In short the team has some talent and raw athleticism but they need a coach who can teach them basketball essentials. Something Flip Saunders can be known for but they seem to have rejected it. Doug Collins in Philidelphia would have been perfect, because if that didnt work with his demanding, grind hard approach nothing will. This team can be a good team, but they are so far off I refuse to mix freakish athleticism with genuine NBA level talent.

PLAYS OF THE WEEK 

Words: Luke G (@ImAlways_Hungry)

On-line editing: Polo (@LordOfTheLeng ) 

 

My walk with God

Many of you may or may not know my beliefs i live as life as a Rasta carefully watching what i eat and how i treat people but I am a Christian and have been for many years, I believe in God whole heartedly and i also believe in Jesus and that he died for our sins, with Christmas coming up i spoke about God and my faith recently here it is in case you want a listen. Enjoy

Just click the link below

 http://www.woodsidegreencc.org.uk/index.php?option=com_preachit&id=65:why-is-it-that-god-had-to-send-his-son-to-die&view=audio&Itemid=71

 

Racism….is just a natural way of thinking?

Racism

I am sure most of you have seen the video of the woman on the tram making the angry racist rant and it seems a few more are popping up on youtube daily. However remember whilst i don’t condole racism, i think humans are innately triablistic, we seek to surround ourselves with people who are like us and shun those who are not, believing the group we belong is best, until we stop seeing ourselves as different racism will be rife.

After reading the newspaper I have become aware that the woman on the tram was arrested.  ( HYPERLINK “http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/top-stories/2011/11/28/woman-arrested-over-racist-rant-in-my-tram-experience-youtube-video-115875-23595377/” http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/top-stories/2011/11/28/woman-arrested-over-racist-rant-in-my-tram-experience-youtube-video-115875-23595377/). After watching  the video and reading the article I found it hard to decide where to start and I have tried to organise my thoughts in the most understandable way.

Racism has not gone anywhere, yes slavery is over in the literal sense, but racism is still around. It has just changed and become more disguised and politically correct. It was only a few years ago Labour was elected for a stop and search of all black and Asian males, it was only 80 years ago that black people went from being 1/3 human to full human and it’s only around 60 years ago that the government sanctioned research to show that mixed race people were weaker and lesser human and spoke against interracial mixing. A few years back, Thatcher and the Conservatives backed the white racist government in South Africa labelling Mandela as a terrorist.

Have a read of this article I found interesting ( HYPERLINK “http://news.sky.com/home/uk-news/article/15147184″ http://news.sky.com/home/uk-news/article/15147184). My main point is whilst none of the three main parties disliked black people (openly) I bet you many of them would have a problem if you tried to marry their daughter/s. The basic stereotypes are still as visible as ever.

I don’t think the woman should have been arrested, legally I don’t think anyone has a leg to stand on. With the human right to freedom of speech and also the fact she could of felt harassed to make her explode, I personally don’t see anything sticking in court more than a Asbo and if it does I think it’s ridiculous. By trying to shut people up and lock them away sadly you’re silencing what people really think. I honestly don’t believe this woman is apart of a small minority as people making out and I believe there are thousands like her. When you arrest these people and harass them you just make them stronger, they feel more justified at times they feel like you have proven their point.

So what should we do?

In my opinion you can arrest every racist in the BNP and National Front but they will just come back ten times stronger. What I mean by stronger is now she has been arrested you have made he r into a martyr of sorts and now given her cause a platform, what is the point of having laws and rules which force people to live in silence when really in their mind they are thinking racist thoughts and saving in the privacy of their own home, they still will refuse to give certain people jobs, they still will stereotype people who are interracially mixed, they will still tell their children jokes and stereotypes to shape that child’s mindset on other people.

How did people like Hitler come to power? He used the misfortune of people; the fact people loved a scapegoat to blame the problems in Germany on the minority such as the Jews. We are going through a recession now its very hard for many to get a job and keep up with payments and live a life they have been relatively use to. With the Conservatives in power, cuts are even harsher then Labour would of done and people are feeling it, it is only natural that people are going to start to look for someone to blame.

Secondly if the education doesn’t change we will always have racism, you can’t force someone to not be racist, you can’t impose rules and legislation; this will not change the way people think. Even if they don’t say it in the open, they are probably saying it in the safety of their own home raising their kids in the notions of what they believe in.

We need better education in the UK, things such as black history month do not sit well with me. We need actual minority history integrated in history lessons, their literature in our English lessons, their culture taught in geography and more, until you change someone’s mind you will not change their life.  You can’t force people to think, you have persuade them. People in power using coercion and force are only in power until someone stronger comes along, but persuade someone get them to think how you want them to, you have them forever.

You can force someone not to do something or say something, but you cannot force someone how to think and feel and until you change the way people think and allow people to free their mind, and teach them how to think and not just what to think we will always have ignorance hatred and racism which comes from a fear of the unkown.

None of our political parties care about black people or minorities in general, we’re still a country that will decimate a Middle Eastern country for oil and leave Rwandans to die and do nothing. Lets not look to the people in charge to stop people like the lady on the tram.

It has to be said, minorities do not make it easy on themselves, firstly I saw on twitter the other day (as you can probably see every day) the most amount of racism passed off as jokes. What’s the point of getting angry at the woman on the tram then going home and deciding it’s funny to take the mick out of another race. It’s quite embarrassing even among Asians and Blacks there is a big light and dark divide where people will bitterly argue who is better; deciding one shade is more susceptible to a certain act or way of thinking than another. It’s actually ridiculous and must look so silly to white people, who to the best of my knowledge do not divide themselves as pale or tanned.

The sad fact is we can argue about light and dark, but to racist BNP and National Front members where we are all niggers and pakis to them.

So I would ask that we stop being racist to ourselves before we ask people to stop being racist to us, we have become the slave masters to ourselves, locking ourselves in the cage whilst racists look on and laugh as we self-implode.

My last point came to mind when I saw the article which explained Sneakbo had been released from jail on the premise he has an aspiring music career. ( HYPERLINK “http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2068148/Agassi-Odusina-Teen-rapper-spared-jail-pursue-music-career.html?ito=feeds-newsxml” http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2068148/Agassi-Odusina-Teen-rapper-spared-jail-pursue-music-career.html?ito=feeds-newsxml) I don’t wish to see anyone in jail and hats off to his lawyer but as and I am talking specifically about black people we need to stop putting such an emphasis on sports and music. Yes, if you have a talent and gift go for it, however as a black person the media in my opinion has depicted it as if that is our only way to make it. Many black people do not have role models that are lawyers, doctors, architects and entrepreneurs, all we are force fed is singers, rappers and footballers like that is all we are good at.

We need people to see we are more than that and break the stereotypes , there is only one Jay Z, one Beyonce and one Wayne Rooney and even they didn’t get there on sheer talent, a lot of it was hard work and LUCK. There are some amazing singers out there that will never make it, as with footballers, but we don’t need more youth organisations in the hood teaching us music, drama and dance, that is recreation. I applaud the people going out there trying to give our young people something to do, I really do, but we need to be giving these young children skills, a sense of pride and a sense of unity. WE NEED SKILL ACADEMIES, we need engineers, architects, graphic designers, plumbers builders and electricians; all the jobs we are asking parents to do. To break out we need to break the stereotypes. I’m not trying to tell anyone to give up on their dream, but I don’t want to see people aspiring to be gangsters and hood rappers, we are so much more and if we don’t believe that then why would or should we expect other people to believe it.

We need to change how we see ourselves before we even dream about changing how other people see us.

Racism is real ,it’s here and it hasn’t gone anywhere but before you hold up someone else for racism think about what you do, what you say and how you treat others.

As Halie Selassie says

“Until the philosophy which holds one race superior and another inferior is finally and permanently discredited and abandoned, everywhere is war and until there are no longer first-class and second-class citizens of any nation, until the color of a man’s skin is of no more significance than the color of his eyes. And until the basic human rights are equally guaranteed to all without regard to race, there is war. And until that day, the dream of lasting peace, world citizenship, rule of international morality, will remain but a fleeting illusion to be pursued, but never attained… now everywhere is war.”